Wednesday, May 9, 2012

Friendship And Its Perks

I hang on to people.  Once you're my friend, you're my friend for life.  I don't understand why people toss friends away.

A long time ago, I worked in a law firm.  So did Nancy.  She was one of the secretaries.  I got to know Nancy and she was nice to me.  I was nice back.  We became friends and have remained friends ever since, even after she moved to another part of the country.

Recently, Nancy moved back to New York and we re-connected.  I told her about my blog and she was supportive.

For no reason, Nancy just sent me a big box from David's Cookies.  At first, I thought it contained only cookies but I was wrong.  In addition to packs of Lemon Coolers and Butter Pecan Meltaways, there were two cookie jars -- in the shape of handbags!  Aren't these the cutest?!

Do you hang on to old friends?


  1. thats such a thoughtful gift! i think it can be difficult to stay in touch with friends especially when you move. i made some great friends while i was living in korea but living literally on the other side of the world makes it a challenge. thankfully we now have skype and facebook!

  2. Those cookie jars are awesome. What a great and thoughtful gift.

  3. NO WAY. Those are rad. Totally jealous.

    Friends tend to throw me away, and when they do, I don't make an effort to go back. I don't really have many true IRL friends anymore, and that's OK. Life is more calm and efficient that way. ;)

  4. Omgosh! What an incredible present. Sweet (literally!) and thoughtful.

    I don't think distance has ever been a factor in my friendships. Admittedly, a lot of my friendships have been due to convience and proximity, but my best friend has lived everywhere from DC to all over Tennessee to places I don't even know. But he's still my BFF. We don't talk as much right now, but life happens. We're still always right back on track whenever we get back together.

    Sometimes I think friendships just do run their course, you know someone for a time and move on. Other times there are people you know you want in your life forever. They may challenge you, support you, are close as family, or your work buddy.

    I think today's methods of communication allow for meeting new people and keeping in touch with old friends in ways never before available.

  5. That is a really thoughtful gift.

    I don't have a lot of close friends. I tend to be a rather closed person (who has a fashion blog, go figure). As someone once said about me, "You're open, but in a shallow way." I don't let a lot of people in.

    That said, I do have a few close friends, and that means a lot to me. Some I don't see anymore, but when we do connect, it's like we were never apart. I like that.

  6. yess, friends are for life :)

    and how cute are those cookie jars :)

  7. That's very cool! Love the cookie jars!

  8. So jealous of those cookie jars! They are too cute and fun, I love them!!

    I hang onto friends, I have a friend who has been a close friend since we were five years old and I cherish the fact that we've made it through so many years together!

  9. I hang on to them pretty much forever. I still hang with my summer camp friends like 12 years later haha.

    Totally unrelated, I saw this and thought of you. Its a band I used to see on LI pretty often in HS and I think its really awesome that the singer is embracing who she really is. Plus the world could use more front-women in rockbands! It reminds me of you're motorcycling in a tutu somehow and the wonderful meeting of two things you that make you, you.

    1. I saw that story yesterday in the news. I hadn't heard of him or the band before ('cause I'm an old fart). Thanks for thinking of me.

  10. Oh, how sweet of Nancy! She is lucky to have a friend like you, and so are you:-) I hang on to old friends like ivy on the wall..LOL! Friends make life worth living! Love these handbag jars! Nancy sure has great taste!

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  11. Wow how very thoughtful of her - those cookie jars are beautiful! I'd use them in the bedroom, on a dresser :)
    I try to hang on to people, but sometimes they leave (like Elmira). For me it's kind of difficult to understand how someone was part of your life and then in a few years they are a mere shadow.

  12. Oh my gosh! Perfection. Truly. What a sweetheart Nancy is. But I think that your friends are so kind to you because you put that out there in the world. Because you're so lovely, you make lovely friends.


  13. Love the cookie jars! How sweet of your friend!

  14. How precious are those!? I love it! What an unbelievably sweet gesture. I still am close with my good friends from early in life, so I guess I tend to hold on to friends as well!

  15. Cookies and purses--the perfect combination! That was such a sweet gift.

    Unfortunately, I don't hold onto friends very well. This is something I'd like to improve upon. My friendships tend to fade away when someone moves or when our lives go in different directions.

  16. OMG!! Those cookie jars Rock!!

  17. Oooh, I already like Nancy, and I don't even know her!

    One of my besties and I met in a paralegal class in 1988. I thought she had a big mouth and made the teacher get off topic too often, which in turn made class last wayyyy too long. But one day we shared pics of our biracial kids (not so well tolerated in the 80s), and we bonded for life. In fact, she recommended me for a job with her law firm in 1994, and we're both still there 20 years later.

  18. Good, 'cause you should not expect to get rid of me any time in the future. Lucky you! :)

    I've had the same two best friends since I was 4 and 12. Sometimes I'm amazed that they like me enough to put up with me that long!

  19. P.S. I'm SO glad she's supportive and even more glad that you felt comfortable enough to tell her.