Sunday, August 31, 2014
Being In A Hard Place
The big question becomes -- What do we do? How do we react to our difficulties? Do we crumble? Do we fight back? Do we abandon hope for a happy life?
I'm friends with a blogger in England. The name she uses online is Lotte (short for Charlotte) even though IRL she's a middle-aged man with a wife and a child. Lotte describes herself as a crossdresser (as distinct from a transsexual like me) but we both fall under the umbrella term "transgender." That's her on the right.
Lotte is in pain right now. I can sense it because I know her pain. It's profound sadness emerging from regret. Lotte isn't living a life that gives her happiness and feels penned in by her circumstances. To address this, she's started writing deep, soulful posts on her blog. A second installment just appeared ( here ).
If you have insight into how to find joy in life, you may want to offer Lotte advice. Or hope. Or support. I tried. When you know someone's pain, it's easier to feel empathy for them. And empathy expands our humanity and ability for connection.