Saturday, January 21, 2012
I understand this concept. Riding a motorcycle is analogous. After years of riding, I don't consciously operate the controls, I just do it. The skill is hard-wired at this point and I needn't think about how to escape a dangerous situation or lean further into a curve; I just do it.
Neither I nor you were born with this knowledge. It was taught to us, first by our mothers and later by everyone else. The lessons start early, before memory begins, and are embedded in our psyche at a deep level. We don't decide how to pick up our purse and swing it over our shoulder: it's simply a motion we perform.
I envy the ease and grace most women have. The smooth movements of their bodies; the natural way their bodies slide into positions of feminine attractiveness. What is easy and natural for them, however, is hard and unnatural for me.
Behavior accepted for females is condemned as effeminacy in men. It is harshly rebuked. It is instantly and openly criticized by strangers. A man can't physically act like a woman without attracting negative attention.
So where does that leave me?
I am trying to learn a new language, one forbidden to me from birth. I am experimenting with poses and positions. I am striving for feminine poise and grace. That's what the pictures below illustrate.
I know my nascent efforts aren't successful. But moving forward is the only way we can reach our goals.
What do you think about this subject? Are you aware of how you stand, move and pose?