Do you accept it gracefully? Do you feel awkward and protest you aren't worthy? Do you argue with the person? Or do you simply smile, say "thank you" and feel good about yourself?
I'm getting better at accepting a compliment. It's strange that it should be something you have to learn but I think it's drummed into kids not to show off and then you forget how to say thank you and genuinely mean it. It's a real shame.
I wish I could say that I smiled and say thanks , but I usually say something dumb about why they shouldn't have complimented me Something that needs to be worked on! Brett
In general I react kindly, just say "thanks, you think so??" or something like that. But I guess it depends on the person and his/her intentions (or my interpretation of their intentions). I don't react good to sucking up though... And most of the times I don't do compliments either, unless I mean them. Truth is important to me.... (although many people can't handle it). Sometimes I appreciate more a comment that's not complimenting if it's closer to the truth. (done tactfully of course..).
I always say "Thank you" but, depending on the person who said that, at the same time I think "Is this person serious?!". I like compliments when the person is honest to me.
I always say, "Oh, thank you so much!" I used to feel very uncomfortable about compliments and would brush them off, but it's like rejecting a gift! How rude and hurtful to throw something like that back in a person's face - and it guarantees they will never compliment you again, sadly.
I used to be all "Nooo, that's wrong, I'm not deserving of praise" and downplay it but I've since learnt to just say "Thank you" and smile. If it's something I made that I'm being complimented on I might elaborate on that (and possibly go along the lines of "oh, you could do that too, it wasn't really difficult" - which however I don't consider as downplaying my own achievement).
i just forgot the term of this thing that you always see yourself ugly when everyone else is saying you're beautiful...believe me or not, my husband just shared to me today about that lady who threw an acid on her own face here in Salem...gives me an idea to blog about her...reason why he said bec, I am the same person who never thinks I am beautiful...I had always been teased in h.s. as the worse dressed by these group of girls...it was traumatic and embrarassing...today, i thank the people who would compliment me.
Just kidding. It doesn't happen often, so I'm usually pretty happy. I smile, say "thanks" and then secretly wonder if they really meant it or were jsut trying to make me feel good.
I say "thank you," and try not to smirk with pleasure! ; ) I do feel awkward, but wonder why. Obviously I get dressed with the hope that other people will like it, but somehow they're not supposed to mention it... except on my blog of course!
P.S. I really like your increase of outfit posts... keep it up. : )
I usually say thanks, and if appropriate, indicate the effort I put into it. If they like my hair for example, I say thank you, I have been growing it for a long time!
I used to feel uncomfortable in the past, but have worked at saying 'thank you' - I do catch myself at times still excusing things, or saying it's so old - but mostly, I just smile a big bright smile and say thanks. I enjoy the compliments 100% - as I'm sure everyone else does - I love paying compliments too.
Oh, how time has a way of changing you for the better. :)
I used to try to explain compliments away or protest them, as if I weren't deserving of them, as if I had to apologize for myself for some unknown reason.
At some point, I realized it was kinda annoying when other people wouldn't just accept my heartfelt compliments to them, so I started smiling and saying, "Thank you," when I'd get compliments. But I might not always believe the compliment.
Now, I believe them! When someone compliments me and I say thanks, I mean it, and I believe what they said. People don't generally compliment you unless they mean it. So take their words to heart! :) It's so much more liberating to assume that people like you rather than don't like you. Even if you find out they don't, it doesn't hit you as hard.
Every time I've ever told a little girl that she's pretty, she's always said, "I know." And not in an arrogant way...in a childlike way that means life's worries and issues haven't stolen her sense of self yet. That's the state I want to live in.
Honestly? I often think they are being sarcastic. Tell me I have a nice smile, I must have something in my teeth.. compliment my hair? It must look like a ball of frizz. I have gotten better and try to believe that they are being sincere.
It depends--I am a bit of a perfectionist, and often have a very staunch opinion on my own appearance and performances. So, if somebody gives me a compliment, or tells me they dislike something I did/wore, my reaction depends on whether or not I agree with them. If I agree with the compliment, I'll flash a genuine smile and say "thank you!" If I disagree, I'll probably say "thank you," anyway, but I'll probably tell you what I did wrong and how I could have done better or achieved what I was going for. The flipside of this is that if someone tells me that I look like I was attacked by something in the shower, I'll just say, "Okay," or "That's nice." On confidence: http://iwantlovely.blogspot.com/2011/04/confidence-i-love-that-but-i-could.html
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I feel a little awkward but say thank you :)
ReplyDeleteI'm getting better at accepting a compliment. It's strange that it should be something you have to learn but I think it's drummed into kids not to show off and then you forget how to say thank you and genuinely mean it. It's a real shame.
ReplyDeleteI wish I could say that I smiled and say thanks , but I usually say something dumb about why they shouldn't have complimented me
ReplyDeleteSomething that needs to be worked on!
Brett
I always say thank you, but I would prefer they just say it when I'm not around.
ReplyDeleteI'm super awkward when someone offers me a compliment- I usually stammer and say oh no I don't look that great but I'm improving with time!
ReplyDeleteAwkwardly say thanks and then over think until I turn it into a negative thing. Though I;m working on it!
ReplyDeleteI say thank you and I am usually surprised that someone gave me a compliment.
ReplyDeleteI say thank You. It is a great confidence booster for me.
ReplyDeleteI used to get awkward and protest but I don't like it when I compliment other people and they do that, so now I smile and say oh thanks :)
ReplyDeleteIn general I react kindly, just say "thanks, you think so??" or something like that. But I guess it depends on the person and his/her intentions (or my interpretation of their intentions). I don't react good to sucking up though... And most of the times I don't do compliments either, unless I mean them. Truth is important to me.... (although many people can't handle it). Sometimes I appreciate more a comment that's not complimenting if it's closer to the truth. (done tactfully of course..).
ReplyDeleteI always say "Thank you" but, depending on the person who said that, at the same time I think "Is this person serious?!". I like compliments when the person is honest to me.
ReplyDeleteI always say, "Oh, thank you so much!" I used to feel very uncomfortable about compliments and would brush them off, but it's like rejecting a gift! How rude and hurtful to throw something like that back in a person's face - and it guarantees they will never compliment you again, sadly.
ReplyDelete"Thank you" is the best answer.
I used to be all "Nooo, that's wrong, I'm not deserving of praise" and downplay it but I've since learnt to just say "Thank you" and smile. If it's something I made that I'm being complimented on I might elaborate on that (and possibly go along the lines of "oh, you could do that too, it wasn't really difficult" - which however I don't consider as downplaying my own achievement).
ReplyDeletei just forgot the term of this thing that you always see yourself ugly when everyone else is saying you're beautiful...believe me or not, my husband just shared to me today about that lady who threw an acid on her own face here in Salem...gives me an idea to blog about her...reason why he said bec, I am the same person who never thinks I am beautiful...I had always been teased in h.s. as the worse dressed by these group of girls...it was traumatic and embrarassing...today, i thank the people who would compliment me.
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ReplyDeleteJust kidding. It doesn't happen often, so I'm usually pretty happy. I smile, say "thanks" and then secretly wonder if they really meant it or were jsut trying to make me feel good.
I say thank you, but I always feel awkward because if I compliment them on something I always fear that I will sound like I am just saying it.
ReplyDeleteI always say thank you... at time I feel awkward, but I think this really depends on who is paying me the compliment. It's always a weird situation!
ReplyDeleteI say "thank you," and try not to smirk with pleasure! ; ) I do feel awkward, but wonder why. Obviously I get dressed with the hope that other people will like it, but somehow they're not supposed to mention it... except on my blog of course!
ReplyDeleteP.S. I really like your increase of outfit posts... keep it up. : )
I give them my best smile and say Thank You like I mean it! :)
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I usually say thanks, and if appropriate, indicate the effort I put into it. If they like my hair for example, I say thank you, I have been growing it for a long time!
ReplyDeleteI used to feel uncomfortable in the past, but have worked at saying 'thank you' - I do catch myself at times still excusing things, or saying it's so old - but mostly, I just smile a big bright smile and say thanks. I enjoy the compliments 100% - as I'm sure everyone else does - I love paying compliments too.
ReplyDeleteI try to react gracefully, but usually I'm dumbfounded that it even happened. ;) I think I'm much better at giving compliments than accepting them.
ReplyDeleteOh, how time has a way of changing you for the better. :)
ReplyDeleteI used to try to explain compliments away or protest them, as if I weren't deserving of them, as if I had to apologize for myself for some unknown reason.
At some point, I realized it was kinda annoying when other people wouldn't just accept my heartfelt compliments to them, so I started smiling and saying, "Thank you," when I'd get compliments. But I might not always believe the compliment.
Now, I believe them! When someone compliments me and I say thanks, I mean it, and I believe what they said. People don't generally compliment you unless they mean it. So take their words to heart! :) It's so much more liberating to assume that people like you rather than don't like you. Even if you find out they don't, it doesn't hit you as hard.
Every time I've ever told a little girl that she's pretty, she's always said, "I know." And not in an arrogant way...in a childlike way that means life's worries and issues haven't stolen her sense of self yet. That's the state I want to live in.
Honestly? I often think they are being sarcastic. Tell me I have a nice smile, I must have something in my teeth.. compliment my hair? It must look like a ball of frizz. I have gotten better and try to believe that they are being sincere.
ReplyDeleteIt depends--I am a bit of a perfectionist, and often have a very staunch opinion on my own appearance and performances. So, if somebody gives me a compliment, or tells me they dislike something I did/wore, my reaction depends on whether or not I agree with them. If I agree with the compliment, I'll flash a genuine smile and say "thank you!" If I disagree, I'll probably say "thank you," anyway, but I'll probably tell you what I did wrong and how I could have done better or achieved what I was going for.
ReplyDeleteThe flipside of this is that if someone tells me that I look like I was attacked by something in the shower, I'll just say, "Okay," or "That's nice."
On confidence: http://iwantlovely.blogspot.com/2011/04/confidence-i-love-that-but-i-could.html
Also, that photograph is brilliant. I need to go print some of those out.
ReplyDeleteI find it difficult to accept a compliment. i don´t know where to look. It takes some training.
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I usually feel awkward, say "thank you" very quickly and in a low voice.
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