Friday, April 6, 2012
The Mix Of Life
I was wrong. The older I got, the more I realized life is a mixed bag of cookies. It is usually good and bad, simultaneously. Which means that what you focus on (the good things or the bad things) often determines your overall happiness.
For example, my first boss was a wealthy lawyer who was anhedonic. That means he was incapable of enjoying life. Despite growing up poor, he got rich by good luck. He invested in real estate at the exact right time and simply lucked out when the entire market appreciated. Then he spent the rest of his life wasting that money.
It used to amaze me how unhappy he could be on a daily basis when he had such good fortune. For example, he'd complain about the (minimal) cost of maintaining his $120,000 Mercedes. He'd complain that his $15,000 Rolex watch didn't keep good time. He complained about everything and he lived with a sour mood -- while enjoying opportunities far beyond my meager reach.
Do you feel life has both good and bad in it? Or just one of the other? How do you handle this?
(I took these photographs last Sunday during our nature walk.)