Wednesday, February 26, 2014
How Tough Are You?
Toughness, in my opinion, is the ability to withstand life's hardships. It is resilience against the things that go wrong. Toughness is having a strong will that enables you to pursue goals with tenacity.
Are you tough? There's a test at the end of this post which you can use to measure your toughness. Some people are strong; some are not. Some are hardy; some are not. See how you fare.
My mother was tough -- which surprised people because of her short height (4'11") and gender. My mother could struck fear in anyone's heart. I saw grown men quiver at her approach. Her visceral strength was astounding: when my mother bit your leg, she didn't let go until you did what she wanted. My mother single-handedly turned a group of misfits into a "family;" she controlled and dominated the entire herd. Maura and I used to joke that my mother could have run Russia better than Stalin; she had a stronger iron grip.
Here are some questions to gauge your personal toughness. Feel free to answer any of them or just free-associate your thoughts on the subject:
- When your brother pulls your ponytail, what do you do? Cry for Mommy? Try to reason with him? Squeeze his grapes?
- When your boyfriend forgets an important occasion, do you make excuses for him? Confront him in anger? Reach for a kitchen knife?
- When a project at school or work turns out to be harder than expected, how do you react? Buckle down and dig into the work? Pull out your bong? Shop for shoes?
- When your motorcycle hits 140 mph at the racetrack, are you excited? Scared? In need of new underwear?
- When someone leaves a nasty comment on your blog, do you ignore it? Write a new post about how your feelings are hurt? Or blast the offender on her blog with snappy insults?
- When a co-worker acts haughty or passive-aggressive, what do you do? Complain to the boss? Put laxative in her coffee?
- When you fall off your motorcycle and break some ribs, how long do you wait to order new riding gear? Two hours? Two days? Forever?