tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post3875581905501500265..comments2024-03-27T21:17:11.920-04:00Comments on Shybiker: To Paint, Or Not To Paint...Shybikerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15263331247319768989noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-47967385776372265242019-12-20T05:39:57.821-05:002019-12-20T05:39:57.821-05:00How come made it happen occur? https://imgur.com/a...How come made it happen occur? <a href="https://imgur.com/a/utsLmmU" rel="nofollow">https://imgur.com/a/utsLmmU</a> <a href="https://imgur.com/a/xEO3Pkp" rel="nofollow">https://imgur.com/a/xEO3Pkp</a> <a href="https://imgur.com/a/mwfTn9F" rel="nofollow">https://imgur.com/a/mwfTn9F</a> <a href="https://imgur.com/a/yExkwnY" rel="nofollow">https://imgur.com/a/yExkwnY</a> <a href="https://imgur.com/a/eiampWd" rel="nofollow">https://imgur.com/a/eiampWd</a> <a href="https://imgur.com/a/OjzSh9L" rel="nofollow">https://imgur.com/a/OjzSh9L</a> <a href="https://imgur.com/a/apw4fjZ" rel="nofollow">https://imgur.com/a/apw4fjZ</a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-35171608833915427722019-12-05T09:25:08.251-05:002019-12-05T09:25:08.251-05:00Thank you!Thank you!Shybikerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15263331247319768989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-65777364928011867042019-12-04T17:05:18.683-05:002019-12-04T17:05:18.683-05:00I love the fact you are uniquely 'you'. Yo...I love the fact you are uniquely 'you'. You give strength to other people to be out in the world, by your authenticity. We as a society have a long way to go, BUT we are closer to acceptance and tolerance than we were precisely because of all the brave souls who went out in to the world as their true selves. Please rock your nail polish! You are the future, walk tall and feel proud. You are helping us all to evolve into better people XXXAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-80721355585502387112019-11-18T17:52:01.754-05:002019-11-18T17:52:01.754-05:00It does annoy me that so many things are restricte...It does annoy me that so many things are restricted by 'traditional' gender stereotypes in this time we live in. In the Regency era and before, dandies set the fashion by wearing elaborate creations, wigs, powder and all sorts. I am quite sure if nail varnish had been around, they would have worn it.<br />My friend Alastair in Sixth form at school wore nail varnish all the time, he was a goth and people learnt to accept it. I think it is easier at that 'experimental age' to allow people to get used to it (though there can also be bullying which sucks) and I think it's always strangers, who don't know us, who can be the most hurtful because of the doubletake when they see something unusual but I don't understand why people then need to comment.<br />I say, wear it if you like it!! I used to wear it loads as a teenager but stopped when I got a job in a chipshop and had to take it off every few days- now I am lazy!Kezziehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15705356707599121605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-53090993641647176332019-11-15T07:58:20.259-05:002019-11-15T07:58:20.259-05:00Thank you! You're a great friend, Ashley.Thank you! You're a great friend, Ashley.Shybikerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15263331247319768989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-75494806292654050452019-11-14T11:12:49.425-05:002019-11-14T11:12:49.425-05:00I love how brave you are + open in sharing your st...I love how brave you are + open in sharing your story. It's amazing! <br /><br />I think you should rock that polish any ol' time you want to- if it makes you feel good, DO IT. And if someone doesn't get it, they can just move along.<br /><br />-Ashley<br /><a href="https://lestylorouge.com/" rel="nofollow">Le Stylo Rouge</a> awhitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03931401750884199529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-56433942794061271062019-11-14T07:23:16.885-05:002019-11-14T07:23:16.885-05:00You are my target audience. It's people like y...You are my target audience. It's people like you I'm focused on. Thanks for the reassurance. Hugs back!Shybikerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15263331247319768989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-88371022667051992312019-11-14T07:21:41.683-05:002019-11-14T07:21:41.683-05:00Thanks, pal!Thanks, pal!Shybikerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15263331247319768989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-22520346661950401262019-11-14T07:21:27.355-05:002019-11-14T07:21:27.355-05:00You are right. RIGHT. I need to remember this and ...You are right. RIGHT. I need to remember this and need to learn to be less self-conscious. The problem is overcoming early-childhood lessons.Shybikerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15263331247319768989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-31457346321015292302019-11-14T07:20:28.598-05:002019-11-14T07:20:28.598-05:00Thanks for the info. If I was younger or looked mo...Thanks for the info. If I was younger or looked more radical, nail-polish might not be as big a deal on me but, in male clothes, I look like a traditional, conservative lawyer. (I'm not, but I look like one.) That incongruity is my problem.Shybikerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15263331247319768989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-64091263399370814502019-11-14T02:07:00.816-05:002019-11-14T02:07:00.816-05:00I'll start with my background is one of tolera...I'll start with my background is one of tolerance - nerdy parents, a gay godfather, trans high school bestie, etc. I also grew up in two distinct subcultures: goth kids and emo kids.<br /><br />Both of which definitely supported men wearing make up and painted nails.<br /><br />Now, people of all genders and cultures are pushing the envelope, imo. A vlogger I watch wears a 2 or 3 piece, a mustache... And painted nails. He's probably early 30s?<br /><br />Tbh IF i noticed a male-presenting person with nail polish in public, I'd probably not think twice. Especially if it were a generally "normal" color (nude/black/red). Neon may give me pause.<br /><br />That said, every time you talk about your childhood, I wish I could hug little Ally tight and say, "It won't always be locked inside, one day you'll get a chance to shine."Megan Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10169811757787686946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-12293426274087476492019-11-13T22:02:26.533-05:002019-11-13T22:02:26.533-05:00Solid yes over here!Solid yes over here!Becky https://www.blogger.com/profile/02234081494939675926noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-45341669341103688542019-11-13T19:50:20.360-05:002019-11-13T19:50:20.360-05:00People give others too much power and overthink th...People give others too much power and overthink things. No one questioned you when you presented as female and we went out. It was awesome! <br /><br />We always think people are looking at us more than they are. <br /><br />Also, you have some of the nicest hands and nails I've seen, women or men. Show them off!<br /><br />Suzanne<br />http://www.suzannecarillo.comSuzannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03891315017218863243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-28499423554209673922019-11-13T19:11:34.181-05:002019-11-13T19:11:34.181-05:00The Young Prince has worn Fingernail Polish almost...The Young Prince has worn Fingernail Polish almost always whether he's presenting as Male or Female. A lot of the Goth Kids do regardless of Gender Identity and so it seems quite normal to see Males wearing Nail Polish nowadays much like the Big Hair of the 70's and 80's and Make-Up kind of crossed Gender Boundaries and obscured them a lot in that Era. I look back at some of the Popular Rock Bands of those days and it was not easy to discern anyone's actual Orientation because it was acceptable to just Rock whatever Style you happened to like and which expressed yourself. If it makes you feel empowered, I'd wear it as often as you like. I remember people cautioning me before I got my Dreadlocks that a lot of Society wasn't accepting of them... and Social Stigma of those who have them still abounded. Yes, some of it does, but I personally have had almost 99.9% Positive experience wearing mine, I Love them, it's authentic to myself and the .1% has mostly been curious or just ignorant of the Hairstyle and just asks questions which mostly humor me... like, do you wash them? Or the more intrusive, can I touch them, which is kinda Weird! *Bwahahaha!*Bohemianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03743017084098726581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-68424352187398841462019-11-13T18:14:32.587-05:002019-11-13T18:14:32.587-05:00Thanks, Lecy. I appreciate your support and will k...Thanks, Lecy. I appreciate your support and will keep everyone posted. That's what blogs are for!Shybikerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15263331247319768989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-53658917951962383662019-11-13T12:42:44.577-05:002019-11-13T12:42:44.577-05:00This is such an interesting topic. I think we'...This is such an interesting topic. I think we've come a long way in recognizing that gender is not what we see on the outside, but we still have a long way to go in the acceptance of that. I'm glad you've had the confidence to go out in public presenting as a female. I think it's important to be authentically who we are on the inside. I know a lot of fathers and grandfathers who let their little girls paint their nails and now I'm curious what kind of reaction they get as opposed to someone who is doing it for their own enjoyment and self-expression. Young rock stars wear nail polish all the time, so I'm sure the younger crowd is probably more accepting or less aware of it whereas the older, more traditional folks are still hesitant to accept it. I hope that you continue to have positive experiences as you are out and about as a female. I would be interested to read a follow up post as you do more research on this topic.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-15885536009255757912019-11-13T08:50:56.465-05:002019-11-13T08:50:56.465-05:00You identify the situation perfectly, pal. A balan...You identify the situation perfectly, pal. A balancing needs to happen, but we wish it didn't. I take pleasure in others' display of their personality; I wish strangers could take pleasure in mine. Alas...Shybikerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15263331247319768989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-80870075417759006602019-11-13T08:48:09.054-05:002019-11-13T08:48:09.054-05:00Exactly right. I wish society was understanding en...Exactly right. I wish society was understanding enough that I wouldn't have to have a daily discussion in my head about what will and won't fly. Thanks, Aya!Shybikerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15263331247319768989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-22357196292420907792019-11-13T02:54:51.902-05:002019-11-13T02:54:51.902-05:00I'm sorry that the reactions of other people m...I'm sorry that the reactions of other people make you feel that this conversation is needed. I'm in the "what makes you happy" camp, but I know it isn't as simple as that. While having bright colours on the ends of your fingers might make you smile and feel happy, the less positive reactions of others may make you sad. It is really difficult to balance those feelings by holding onto the joy without being brought down by the other stuff. But I still say go for it. I love seeing others show their personality through their nails, hair style, clothing choices, fancy spectacles, or whatever else. We must all strive to be ourselves, for that is the only way to feel good and comfortable. Zoehttp://splodzblogz.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-19594791076960314782019-11-12T22:37:06.130-05:002019-11-12T22:37:06.130-05:00Yay! Well first of all like others say, I am so ha...Yay! Well first of all like others say, I am so happy that you get this happiness out of expressing yourself. Over on the West Coast, I'm not sure how much of what I experience applies (I could wear a bathrobe on MUNI and no one would look twice). I agree that what you are doing is excellent in that you can make an informed choice when you leave the house.<br /><br />Shitty things: that you have to weigh options just for effing expressing yourself because people suck.Aya in Couturgatoryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02764355243258260075noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-86008641898579629192019-11-12T19:43:31.798-05:002019-11-12T19:43:31.798-05:00Thank you, Sheila. I thought you could relate sinc...Thank you, Sheila. I thought you could relate since your presentation often includes wild, unusual elements (which I love for their aesthetic value). I often wonder about the reactions you get from others.Shybikerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15263331247319768989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-58411849931198899692019-11-12T19:41:42.819-05:002019-11-12T19:41:42.819-05:00Thanks for the thoughtful response, buddy.Thanks for the thoughtful response, buddy.Shybikerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15263331247319768989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-90685913727819359962019-11-12T19:40:30.244-05:002019-11-12T19:40:30.244-05:00Thanks for the feedback and personal anecdote.Thanks for the feedback and personal anecdote.Shybikerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15263331247319768989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-86883233666078661182019-11-12T19:38:27.760-05:002019-11-12T19:38:27.760-05:00Red. Fire engine red.
You're right about need...Red. Fire engine red.<br /><br />You're right about needing energy when doing something like this. I steel myself going out, knowing that any reaction is possible. Shybikerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15263331247319768989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-20608919600820323292019-11-12T19:36:09.380-05:002019-11-12T19:36:09.380-05:00Thank you, friend. Your support gives me confidenc...Thank you, friend. Your support gives me confidence.Shybikerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15263331247319768989noreply@blogger.com