tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post327123393842916977..comments2024-03-27T21:17:11.920-04:00Comments on Shybiker: Questions and AnswersShybikerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15263331247319768989noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-75793622842245266422011-01-25T22:27:34.096-05:002011-01-25T22:27:34.096-05:00I must say, this is a truly fascinating and eye-op...I must say, this is a truly fascinating and eye-opening blog. Thank you for sharing your stories!J.J.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00784086198861997929noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-27697630746348202032010-12-11T11:33:53.526-05:002010-12-11T11:33:53.526-05:00i am such a huge reader- I can definitely relate t...i am such a huge reader- I can definitely relate to that!! It makes me sad your parents never supported you with reading though, or when you wanted to be a college professor.<br /><br />Charlotte xxxCharlotte Cantillon (Crowley)https://www.blogger.com/profile/11920677643812511895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-8867033345371257702010-12-06T22:29:00.832-05:002010-12-06T22:29:00.832-05:00Hi Jen! Thanks for the thoughtful comments, as al...Hi Jen! Thanks for the thoughtful comments, as always. You have uncommon insight into me.<br /><br />I did see your earlier question. It's too complex to answer here. We can follow it up in e-mail, if you wish.<br /><br />I'm open to writing about any subject so long as it's genuine and soulful. My nature would qualify. :)Shybikerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15263331247319768989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-61731194834944076972010-12-06T22:19:56.482-05:002010-12-06T22:19:56.482-05:0020 York: I'm sure visiting Boston would be fun...20 York: I'm sure visiting Boston would be fun for you. And I'm very eager to meet blogger-friends IRL. I don't push anyone to meet but I would travel any distance, without hesitation, to have a cup of coffee and chat with my online friends.Shybikerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15263331247319768989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-45837802768321950132010-12-06T22:13:12.018-05:002010-12-06T22:13:12.018-05:00Lorena, thank you for commenting. I'm sorry t...Lorena, thank you for commenting. I'm sorry this struck a chord in you. If you want, e-mail me privately and we can talk about this further.Shybikerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15263331247319768989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-44594075384352498922010-12-06T15:53:14.514-05:002010-12-06T15:53:14.514-05:00You know, I have always wondered if you'd ever...You know, I have always wondered if you'd ever wanted to have children and was afraid it might be too painful of a question...I guess I should know by now you're willing to share, but I didn't want to re-open an old wound in case there was one. I'm sorry, so sorry... <br /><br />Though I know your parents loved you, I am sorry they tried too hard to mold you into what they thought you should be...not only as a male but also in your career and hobbies. I'm so glad you're deciding to live your happy childhood now. Some of your experiences as a child hurt me to the core. Yet your choice not to let them rule you anymore is beyond inspiring. Anytime I'm talking to someone who's resistant to believing this is a real thing people struggle with as kids, I tell them about your coffee can, and after that, there is simply no way they can allow themselves to dispute your experience. They soften immediately, and I see the emotion change in their eyes because it's so powerful...it changes their thinking.<br /><br />I'm not sure if you saw a comment I left a while back where I was curious whether or not you wished your parents had not forced a surgery on you.<br /><br />You definitely can write! Have you thought about a book about your transgender experience? You've seen on here how moved people are when reading about the details of your feelings and emotions about it. Or are you thinking another topic? Fiction, non-fiction?Jenarcissist @ the closet narcissisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07427993886300110387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-14266401795848702832010-12-06T10:37:26.347-05:002010-12-06T10:37:26.347-05:00p.s. I've never been to Boston but heard its a...p.s. I've never been to Boston but heard its a fantastic drive from Canada during fall. It's on my list of places to visit and so is meeting blogger friends IRL.<br /><br />What do you think about that?<br /><br />=)20 YORK STREEThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17116853783102419578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-26099651550869711102010-12-06T10:30:51.543-05:002010-12-06T10:30:51.543-05:00Wow how very insightful.
Maybe a good topic to wri...Wow how very insightful.<br />Maybe a good topic to write would be on parenting, from a child's point of view.<br />As I have mentioned in my case, like yours parents/guardians just shut down certain dreams like for example becoming a teacher or a journalist.<br />I was told that teachers were poor and that journalists were skanks and that I should study something else.<br />I don't think parents will ever be pleased with what we do and no matter how hard we try it's like we (or at least me) have that judging eye on you.<br />I could say so much more here but I am just going to stop now, it gets me emotional :(Lorenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16720997862417551402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-83770478221040608492010-12-06T09:46:39.149-05:002010-12-06T09:46:39.149-05:00Every time I visit your blog, you DO NOT fail to i...Every time I visit your blog, you DO NOT fail to impress me. I always knew you were a great writer even from the very first post I read. My grandfather used to come to my room turn off the lights so I would stop reading.. I would either read in the dark or grab a flashlight and read under the blanket!<br /><br />Luv ya!<br /><br />p.s. more coming..20 YORK STREEThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17116853783102419578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-89610330081832247072010-12-05T20:57:36.768-05:002010-12-05T20:57:36.768-05:00With a mind like that, you could be a lawyer, Shei...With a mind like that, you could be a lawyer, Sheila!Shybikerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15263331247319768989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-68983699485081556202010-12-05T19:56:17.512-05:002010-12-05T19:56:17.512-05:00My parents used to tell me to get outside and not ...My parents used to tell me to get outside and not stay inside and read all day. My rebellion is that I would sit on our front steps (just barely outside)...and read, lol.Sheilahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07735339885677950350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-50943290035064960142010-12-04T16:03:48.500-05:002010-12-04T16:03:48.500-05:00It's my pleasure, Tanvii. Your blog is wonder...It's my pleasure, Tanvii. Your blog is wonderful.Shybikerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15263331247319768989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-77937353145313587442010-12-04T15:36:26.770-05:002010-12-04T15:36:26.770-05:00I enjoyed reading your answers and learning more a...I enjoyed reading your answers and learning more about you. I think you can definitely write a book on your life. :) <br /><br />P.S. Also thank you so much for your continuous uninhibited appreciation. It is very kind of you!Tanvihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05491567577469019680noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-89544615436434440572010-12-04T12:27:24.847-05:002010-12-04T12:27:24.847-05:00Thanks, buddy. I wake up every morning listening ...Thanks, buddy. I wake up every morning listening to "9 to 5" and the rest of that album. <br /><br />SOV (whose real name is Louise!) has an energy about her that's addictive. Plus, when she performs in concert, she has mammoth charisma for a small person.Shybikerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15263331247319768989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-60039807152034783412010-12-04T11:11:43.718-05:002010-12-04T11:11:43.718-05:00Only other person from American I've heard men...Only other person from American I've heard mention Lady Sovereign...awesome! Great questions and thoughtful answers. :)alyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16749856052282662870noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-87332134433778838242010-12-04T09:59:47.558-05:002010-12-04T09:59:47.558-05:00I love you guys! Not only do you enjoy my writing...I love you guys! Not only do you enjoy my writing, you get my obscure references! I thought I was alone in America in loving SOV. Glad to see you find the same thing in her, Meg.<br /><br />TM, you made me laugh! Kids should all be given a basket and a chicken growing up. :)Shybikerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15263331247319768989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-91162463622196386212010-12-04T08:44:27.368-05:002010-12-04T08:44:27.368-05:00I enjoyed today's post, too. You definitely ha...I enjoyed today's post, too. You definitely have the talent to write a book one day. No problemo. You certainly have a gift for stringing words together and this honesty thing (as in "I'll be honest about me") that's pretty compelling.<br /><br />I laughed out loud at the bike comments. I hade a bike with a banana seat and ape hangers, too! But mine was not a Schwinn AND I didn't have a basket or chicken either. Had I had a basket and chicken, I would have enjoyed taking it on tour, too!ToadMamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04873763565941746536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-69710121905975359322010-12-04T01:08:23.584-05:002010-12-04T01:08:23.584-05:00I'm so glad you posted this. I enjoyed reading...I'm so glad you posted this. I enjoyed reading it.<br /><br />Publishing a book is something I've always said I want to do, as well. I most certainly identify with you there. <br /><br />Also, I loved reading about your 50th birthday party. It sounds like it was a hoot! A good memory like that is worth its weight in gold.<br /><br />And I have to say, excellent choice on your theme song! I love Lady Sovereign. That song packs the perfect amount of attitude... Let the haters hate. There's plenty of people who love you! And no matter how you twist it or shape it, either way, they're still obsessing over you ;)Meghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03845769658245064407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-63231538295126296762010-12-03T23:12:55.024-05:002010-12-03T23:12:55.024-05:00Thanks, lawyerdoll. And, yes, I saw both the Japa...Thanks, lawyerdoll. And, yes, I saw both the Japanese and American versions of "Shall We Dance." I agree with you that the foreign movie is much better.<br /><br />The song of the same title, from "The King And I," is a classic and one of my favorites, too.<br /><br />Audi, what a fun coincidence! Only I didn't have a basket or a chicken. :)<br /><br />Sara, I saw the SOV live, too! I can't believe you saw her in the Mitten; she's so obscure I never imagined her to be way out there. I had to go into NYC to see her perform. <br /><br />Oh, and being a writer isn't about knowing the rules of grammar (that's what editors are for); it's about having an authentic voice. You have one, Sara. I've heard it!<br /><br />Emma, I *hate* the Yankees. Hate 'em! I was a Red Sox fan solely because of their rivalry with the Yankees. I saw the Red Sox play in Fenway while I was in Boston: that's a great old park.<br /><br />Thanks, Ashelle. As hard as my life has been, it isn't over and I plan to keep trying to live my dreams before it ends. One of my favorite expressions is, "It's never too late to have a happy childhood."Shybikerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15263331247319768989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-63070701052190487502010-12-03T21:52:27.410-05:002010-12-03T21:52:27.410-05:00That's such a beautiful photograph! I really ...That's such a beautiful photograph! I really think you will be able to publish a book :) Also, I agree with lawyerdoll, you evoked a lot of emotion in me while reading... you will do great in writing.<br /><br />Those questions are really great, I feel like I know more about you. It does make me sad to hear that growing up, there was barriers to the things you dreamed of doing. But it seems like for the most part that you have broken those barriers down. You are a strong person to be able to do that and be so open about your experiences. <br /><br />BTW, you're bike sounds pretty pimp!Ashellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07267754231462030031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-75385461469716904852010-12-03T21:04:46.628-05:002010-12-03T21:04:46.628-05:00It is great to learn about people. Since you live ...It is great to learn about people. Since you live in New York, Are you a Yankees fan or a Red Sox fan since you went to school in Boston?Emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08662797100239205854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-38371303941061108382010-12-03T20:59:24.776-05:002010-12-03T20:59:24.776-05:00hahaha I love Lady Sov! Saw her live once, she was...hahaha I love Lady Sov! Saw her live once, she was drunk. I want that bike!! I used to love playing house too! I mostly liked to decorate the area that was the house to look like a house, then I'd get bored. <br /><br />I want to be a writer too, you'd think for being an English major I would be able to use proper grammar. But no. I am so excited for you that you have been published! I really hope you keep persisting it! <br /><br />Your birthday sounds like it was friggin awesome!!Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12497037707134979575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-53299395238500331232010-12-03T20:16:29.293-05:002010-12-03T20:16:29.293-05:00I had a yellow Schwinn with a banana seat too! Ah,...I had a yellow Schwinn with a banana seat too! Ah, memories! I loved that bike. It had a big basket on the front and I used to put my pet chicken in there and take her for rides. I was a weird kid. :-)Audihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13578485770637036384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885867892898159023.post-74227571380606234132010-12-03T19:43:43.997-05:002010-12-03T19:43:43.997-05:00The commentary about playing the baby while "...The commentary about playing the baby while "playing house" actually hurt ME a little... You evoke the pain, confusion, and coverup very well, which shows that you are already an excellent writer.<br /><br />I was thinking about your post about dancing this morning while ironing my shirt and singing "Shall We Dance" from "The King and I" (which I have memorized).<br /><br />Have you ever seen the Japanese movie "Shall We Dance"? They did an American remake with Richard Gere, Susan Sarandon, and Jennifer Lopez. The US one is OK... but the Japanese one is where it's at!<br /><br />You really get the sense of conformity and fear of stepping out of it... if you haven't seen it, rent it STAT!lawyerdollhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16499257623425215954noreply@blogger.com